Dare To Go Deep Into Your Being
The way we treat ourselves in difficult moments says a whole lot about who we are. It’s simple to be on top of the world when things are moving and we would like to hold on to this feeling hoping it will last forever. Yet when it doesn’t, it feels like we are bound to train paths with an oncoming train headed our way and not able to move.
How we behave towards ourselves in our darkest moment’s lays the foundation for who we become later on. Self-love is a difficult concept for many to grasp. I’ve had countless coaching sessions with individuals who find it tough to love and appreciate themselves. They become entrenched into our psyche and nervous system and, if reinforced, are difficult to let go of. However, difficult doesn’t mean impossible.
Is this something you’ve experienced? By way of example, how can you treat yourself when things don’t go your way? If your significant other breaks up with you or your health or finances endure. What is your inner dialogue during those times? I have experienced pain and suffering during my entire life in the form of losing my father to illness, a relationship break up, a health crisis and fiscal woes. There were times I found it hard to appreciate myself because of the despairing inner dialogue that convinced me it was my fault for being in this circumstance. I felt trapped, helpless and hopeless to navigate my way out.
It is why I wrote my first book because it was a subject I had been intimate with and new well. However, I recognized that being trapped in my situation wasn’t who I am. It wasn’t the narrative I wished to live, nor succumb to. I knew somewhere deep inside me there was a presence yearning to express itself but I did not know how to get in touch with it. I wanted to love and nurture myself with compassion rather than negative self-talk. Gradually, I noticed my conditions began to shift and my internal dialogue changed when I started meditating. I had been an anxious person then, but this changed into a calm and peaceful man over the coming years. I dared to go deep into my being and connect with all the love within me.
The love within us expects you to come home to it. It’s your palace of refuge, a place that knows no boundaries, other than to get you in its arms and wake you to your authentic self. The self-love I speak of begins by recognising that tough moments don’t last. To love yourself through difficult times when there’s minimal growth requires you trust that what is taking place is doing so to help you let go of the ruins of the past. It’s breaking down the old and tired ways of living so a new foundation of strength and love can emerge from the authentic self.
The spiritual teacher and writer Matt Kahn provides us the wisdom in his book What’s Here to Help You: A Loving Guide to Your Soul’s Evolution that love is more than an emotion but a wellspring of compassion that resides within us and our job would be to bring it forth:”From a religious perspective, love isn’t an emotion we feel all the time. Love is an unwavering depth of compassion and empathy that reaches inward to embrace our experiences-no matter how mixed up, closed down, unfulfilled, or overwhelmed we tend to be. When rooted in the vibration of love, we do not have to be completely healed to bring forth the kindness and care that resides within us.”
There’s a source of love within you that beckons you to connect with this. Don’t take my word for it since it appears on your display. Unite with this loving presence by standing in front of a mirror and reciting the words:”I love you” the minute you finish reading this report. Recite those three-letter words when you feel joy and happiness or when you are angry or depressed. Recite them as often as you can because you are outside conditions do not need to dictate how you love yourself. The more you connect with this infinite presence, the greater it will be known throughout your life. How we treat ourselves through difficult times says a lot about who we are because who we are is an energy of love. If we make time to connect with this presence more often, we’ll realise that our difficulties serve a purpose; to return us to the wholeness of our authentic self.