I invite you to use wise discernment & take what resonates & works for you & your situation & let go the rest!
Kids ordinarily do not recall the things you purchased them when they develop. At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.
1] Notice how you go about your day, breathe & pause & consciously release what’s not working.
Can you hurry through most things frequently thinking of the things to be done or how well or not well everything previously went? Most parents are juggling much. If you notice yourself breathing either very shallow or quickly, I ask that you slow down & pick mindful breathing. This will open space to stop racing & rather be calm.
As children, we naturally learnt abdominal breathing. We seem to forget that as we go through our life experiences & become adults. Not only will conscious breathing & being in this instant assist you, you’ll also be a great model for your kids on using”pause and breathe” as ways to help redirect & prevent meltdowns.
Do consciously breathe too to release any tension, stress or tightness you might feel.
Thought Invokers are questions to reflect on & that frequently bring insight:
A thought invoker to think about: What can open up for you when you go worrying & trying to be & do it all perfectly?
2] Acknowledge all you’re grateful for such as people, events, successes, learning, opportunities and things regularly. When you develop the habit of appreciating people,events, & things more on a daily basis, you will notice an increased sense of joy! .
Practice appreciating & observing little joys & victories even with your children. They’ll start enjoying more instead of taking things for granted.
Everything you love, appreciates!
3) Identify & write your vision and intention[s] for the year and 3-5 decades.
Then take time to identify 3-4 daily practices that will support you fulfill your intentions and vision. It can be short & crisp OR if have time and want to, then spend the opportunity to be more illustrative. Then allow yourself to feel the emotions you feel as if you have already received this vision. You will be motivated by the emotions of joy and gratitude on fulfilling your desired vision. Listen for your intuition and inner wisdom guidance and take modest steps everyday towards your vision!
Always use wise judgement & change based on opinions. You know yourself and your situation best. You may choose to share with your spouse /partner, a friend or coach for support.
4] Meet with other Moms with the intention to talk about, learn from each other, support and celebrate each other (physically or even almost ). There is significant research suggesting that women feel a drop in their anxiety levels when they connect, share and learn from others like them.
5) Take some time out for at least one practice that helps you maintain observer mode & also nurtures you physically, emotionally and spiritually. This can enable you to release old limiting patterns & get you out of habitually being in reactive mode. [which often occurs to Mothers / Dad / or frankly anyone who has worried!] .
What one-two actions emotionally & /or fulfill you?
Some actions people find valuable: Yoga, Meditative walk, Running, Swimming, Gardening, Art, Craft Tai Chi, etc
6) Taking care of yourself isn’t just important, it’s critical!
Take at least 10 minutes [and if possible more] for yourself to take part in something you love and which provides you pleasure and where you forget time.
What’s possible for you & your loved ones when you take time to invest in you?
What is an activity that makes you feel you are in your zone?
Remember the airplane example-we are reminded to first put our own oxygen mask then put on the mask for many others including our children. After all, what good can we do for others if we aren’t around?
7) You do not have to do it alone!
Empower yourself with the support of a mentor who cares for and calls on your brilliance and natural gifts and abilities!
Find a trainer you resonate with & proceed on your desired results today!
Working with a Coach is different from working with a therapist, consultant or even a Mentor. A coach is also distinct from a friend who listens and also hopes & wants you to listen to them and support them.
Coaching is focused on enhancing quality of life and work and is a process for transformation & expansion.